ONLINE DATING ON FACEBOOK/TWITTER:
So A Cute Dude/Dudette Comments on a Friend’s Post on Facebook or Twitter. Should you go for it?
- Vetting system (you usually have a mutual friend or two that can vouch for the character of the person)
- You know they’re real(ish)
- You can see (tagged) pics of the person in their element and get a better view of what they’re into (and look like) not just what they want you to see to seem dateable.
- Much more difficult for them to do the fadeaway.
- Some people may be annoyed/creeped out being “approach” on a site not intended for dating.
- If you fall flat on your face, above said mutual friend(s) will hear about it.
- There’s added pressure to do that whole “Facebook Official” thing.
- Baggage often comes with mutual friends (see: incestuous friend circles…)
- Much more difficult for you to do the fadeaway.
I have never done the blind Facebook pursuit but I’ve had it done to me a few times (and I was cool with it). If you’re going to use Facebook or Twitter as an online dating website, treat your pages as such:
- No pics of questionable nature especially with others girls/guys.
- Unlike a dating site, your wall is visible so if you’re hitting on multiple people, try to keep it strictly through messages and move it off-line quickly.
- It’s one thing to be dating other people, it’s another for them all to see each other.
- Be prepared to get jealous constantly.
My stance is, do what you’ve gotta do for a date but if there’s a likelihood that you could meet this person in real life instead of on Facebook, do it! I’m sure you’re much more charming off the internet. Next time your friend throws a party, ask them to invite the girl/guy you’ve been eyeing up or throw a party and tell guests to bring friends.
Don’t let the internet replace real life.